Being Pretty (Response Essay)

*This is a response and reflective essay for Jaring-Jaring Merah by Helvy Tiana Rosa (1998) :
http://cerpene.blogspot.co.id/2009/03/jaring-jaring-merah.html

            This text may sounds a little bit like a feminist’s rant, but it is the truth that this world is too men-centric. Aside from GPK as the main issue of Jaring-Jaring Merah, I would rather give my arguments for the perspective of the main character, Inong as a rape victim, because I found it more relatable.
You’d either be dead or get raped if you were a woman who lives in the war era. Why do I state so? Well, according to the history that I know, which is from books and movies, women were in their weakest state. Reading Jaring-Jaring Merah brings back some fragments from the past, even though fortunately in this case not my personal experience. There is this one remarkable dusty book that I found in my hometown’s library, entitled Momoye: Mereka Memanggilku, which is a biography of a Jugun Ianfu (comfort women for Japanese soldiers). The detailed experience written in this non-fiction book made me able to visualize the pain vividly, and I think there is some similar familiar aspect of Jaring-Jaring Merah. If you were pretty, get ready to be a sex slave, but if you were ugly, well you could say that you were blessed for this case, or you might be dead already. Therefore, just like Inong, she wasn’t burned to death like the rest of her family and relatives, instead she was left alive because she was a young pretty woman. By reflecting into the two stories that I mentioned there is this thing, if women want to stay alive you have to sacrifice your morals, and oh you have to be attractive.
 Then, is our purpose (women) in this life is just to be all pretty? That is why one of the line in the story really hits me, “Sayang, dulu ia cantik…,” ujar yang lain.” Why is being pretty so important?  What if Inong were ugly, but she stills got raped? I wonder what would these people say. Being a woman itself is hard enough, but did the attractiveness level also matters? I assume that, if Inong were ugly, she wouldn’t get raped anyway, because apparently it does matter. This level of attractiveness is not only injustice on the issue of women, but it is also a big transparent issue in societies all around the world. I’m neither pretty or ugly myself to be honest, but the double standards on this atrractiveness level is highkey maddening.
Bottom line, maybe my arguments are quite confusing, but after all these are the things that make me wonder when reading Jaring-Jaring Merah, which is still hard for me to figure out the exact answer. I assume that your attractiveness may save your life, but at the same time you may rather be dead.

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